You Are Not Better Off By Yourself!

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Ecclesiastes 4:12

2015 Frieda P. Smith

Leave me alone!  All of us have either stated or heard the words. When these words are uttered, we are stating that we are not interested in any company, any advice, any input, or any suggestions. We wish to be left alone.

There are individuals who are what we will refer to as “periodic” loners. They have no problem being by themselves every now and then. As a matter of fact, they actually enjoy being left alone periodically.

Then, there are those I refer to as the “situational” loners. They are not loners by nature; rather, something happened—a situation—that led them to have a need to spend some time alone.

However, our message on today is not directed toward the periodic loner or the situational loner; this inspirational message is addressed to those of you who believe you are better off by yourselves!

In the 4th chapter of the Old Testament book of Ecclesiastes, the writer—King Solomon—talked about life’s oppression and inequalities. Yes, there are some things that happen in our lives that are unfair and unbalanced, but it is worse is when we find ourselves in these situations alone.

You see my friend, you are not better off by yourself!

For Ecclesiastes 4:12 declares, “Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.”

People of God, anytime we find ourselves alone, we run the risk of being overpowered, because there is only so much we are capable of doing when we are alone. I do not care how strong we believe we are, there is someone who is just as strong as or stronger than we are. In other words, there is such a thing as being “jumped”.

The word “overpowered” means “To overcome, master, or subdue by superior force; to overwhelm in feeling; to gain mastery over the bodily powers or mental faculties of an individual”.

In Ephesians 6:11-12, the Apostle Paul wrote, “Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places…”

When we are alone, we may find ourselves being overpowered by another. In our text, King Solomon implies it would be another individual. However, the word, “another” can refer to another situation as well as another individual.

Let me see if I can make this live. Sometimes—in the midst of a disappointment—we begin to believe that we are better off alone, better off without our family members, better off without our church members, better off without our friends, and better off without our support system. We shut ourselves off from the world and declare, “Leave me alone!”

When we feel this way, we begin to isolate ourselves from everything and everyone, and during these periods of self-imposed isolation, our family, friends, church members, and support systems try to reach out to us. However, instead of embracing them, we shut them out.

During this period of isolation, while we are alone, we still need comfort. Without the comfort of friends and family, some people reach for alcohol and drugs, while some reach for food; some reach for a man or a woman (when I get to yours, say “amen!”), and because no one was there to talk us out of it, we found ourselves being overpowered by another; not another person, but another addiction, another relapse, or another dysfunctional emotional relationship.

Therefore, my friend, regardless of what you have just been through, you are not better off alone! You need someone in your life!

However, this time, remember you cannot hook up with just anybody. That is where the problem originated the first time!

Instead of going into hibernation and swearing off relationships and church memberships and companionships and friendships, this time, hook up with someone who is like-minded. [Sadly, you may have to go outside of your family unit, but it is like that sometimes.] Next time, befriend someone who is saved. Someone who is focused. Someone who is kind. Someone who is strong and mature enough to talk you out of doing something that you will regret.  Someone who is committed, for when the two of you get together, the both of you together can withstand anything!

Alone, another may have overpowered you, but the two of you can withstand anything and anyone!

Alone, you may have been overpowered by another situation, but two of you—you and another strong Christian—there is no problem or circumstance you cannot withstand!

You are not better off by yourself!

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