Please the Only One Who Really Matters

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Colossians 3:23

©2015 Frieda P. Smith

Wedged in this little epistle known as Paul’s letter to the church at Colossae, we find this powerful little verse, “And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not to men…”

People of God, many of us have been raised to do the exact opposite. Our society has conditioned, prepped, and trained us to be people-pleasers.

Look at the media advertisements. Products are promoted to make sure we look our best all the time so people are pleased with us when we walk into a room. The next time you are watching television and a commercial comes on, do not get up and get something from the kitchen; watch it. I can guarantee a company is selling something so you can make a better impression on someone else. A new car. A new IPhone. A vacation package. A weight-loss program. A hair care or makeup product.

For example, every hair on our head must be in place. Our body needs to be toned and in shape. Our clothing must be tasteful and expensive. The cars we drive must be the latest model, polished, and have the latest technology.

That is a beautiful thing, if it is in your budget! However, how many of us have attempted to squeeze an expensive car into our budget in an attempt to please someone else, even if that “someone” is the person who looks back at us when we brush our teeth every morning? Ouch!

It is as if we have been created to please man and man alone.

Sadly, when we fail to please others, they are quick to voice their disapproval. At that point, our self-esteem takes a hit, and we begin to try harder to “people-please”. Some of us begin to spend more hours at the gym. We spend more money on clothes. We try another hairstyle. We change our wardrobe. Nevertheless, we discover quickly that people are never pleased. There is always something wrong. Always something missing. Always something not quite right.

What I need you to know today is that real pleasure is internal, not external.

For example, when I was young, my sisters and I spent every summer in Gloucester, VA at my cousin Ora and Archie’s farmhouse. There was no indoor plumbing. There was a well where we drew water. They had chickens that laid real eggs and they grew their own vegetables.  We washed in a big silver tub she filled with water boiled on the stove. We went into town seated on the back of a cart pulled by a horse.

While there are those who remember summers in Paris and Disney Land and Spain and the Caribbean, I remember my summers in Gloucester, VA, because of the internal joys I experienced there.

I loved going into the hen house and removing the eggs that would later be frying in the pan on the stove. I was fascinated as the empty bucket would be lowered deep into the well but would always return full of water. I especially enjoyed the stares of those who drove past us in their cars while we waved from the back of the horse-drawn cart on our way into town. Yes, they arrived into town faster than we did, but our ride was a lot more fun!

In other words, the old saints used to sing, “Take the world, give me Jesus!” They knew that nothing in the world really mattered but their relationship with the Lord. Yes, having access to a lot of material goods can be nice, but who are you really trying to please?

Do you really think God is pleased about the amount of money we spend to maintain our “Sunday morning fashion show” when He knows we only have $10.00 leftover to put in the offering basket after the shopping spree?  Does He consider us to be good stewards?

My friends, I discovered a long time ago that God could care less about our worldly goods because all of that is about pleasing man, and often it is the inner man!

In this season, whatever you do, do it heartily as to the Lord and not to men (including the inner man). You see, saints, strive to please God because at the end of life, men and women will be speaking at your homegoing, memorial, or graveside service but you will not hear them. They will be “boo-hooing” but you will not hear them. Some will be “lying and crying” but you will not hear them. The choir will sing but you will not hear them.  The musicians will play but you will not hear them.  Someone will eulogize you but you will not hear him or her.

But glory to God, when it is all over, there is a voice you want to hear! You will want to hear the Lord say, “Well done, good and faithful servant”.

Therefore, from this day forward, please the only One Who really matters! Strive to please God and not man!

5 thoughts on “Please the Only One Who Really Matters

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    zayzgal said:
    July 8, 2015 at 11:26 pm

    Well, well, well … comfy clothes and shoes, hair cut low without a perm, old car that runs and is reliable, in my mirror, my spirit and with my God, all is well. The rent is paid, so I have a roof, my cabinets are full, so I’m not hungry, gas in the car so I can make it to work. Pray without ceasing, it is well in my soul, Amen. Thank you Pastor Frieda, for another GOOD word. Be Blessed 🙌🙌


      Frieda P. Smith responded:
      July 9, 2015 at 12:41 am

      To God be the Glory, my sister! Continue to be a blessing! 🙂


    Diane Moody said:
    July 10, 2015 at 8:41 am

    Thank you Pastor for starting this blog and always reminded us it is not about us.Its about who we serve!!!!! God Almighty!!!!!!


      Frieda P. Smith responded:
      July 10, 2015 at 1:17 pm

      Amen my sister! Thanks for your support and encouraging words!


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